June 27, 2013
Take Note – This is important to understand about language and it’s uses. What we consider “poor language” is probably, in fact, a dialect. Just because it’s not a “foreign language” doesn’t mean there aren’t dialects.
June 21, 2013
“[Note: This essay speaks largely to my personal experience as a white cisgender woman. I don’t wish to speak for the experiences of others here; I invite your experiences in comments.]
[Trigger warning for quotations encouraging sexual assault and racist quotations.]”
“I’m in ninth grade, in the same seat, shoulder against the wall, trying to take notes. He reaches over and takes a paper off my desk. He’s watching me.
I stand up so fast I knock my chair backwards; I’m stepping forward, against the chair between us. He’s using it as leverage for his reach – I unbalance it. It crashes into him. It pinches his hand, it bangs his shoulder. He yelps.
My hands are fists. I say, “Touch anything of mine again and you’ll pull back a stump.”
The class has gone silent. The teacher has turned around.
She says, “What’s going on here?”
I say, “I’m dealing with it.”
I spend two hours in the principal’s office. The reason on my slip: “Violent outburst against another student.””
This is why “Deal With It” can be a form of misogyny. This is why when we turn women into externalities, we teach men to feel entitled. Not just to space, not just to objects, but to attention. Affection. Over time, sex. Relationships. Love.
Society teaches men to expect this from women. Society does this when men and boys take something or act out and the repercussions is telling women to deal with it. Women, in this behavioral model, pay the price for men’s actions.
Go read the post.
June 17, 2013
I thought it might be prudent for my position to link to posts essentially taking the same position I am, especially since I agree greatly with both of them.
The first is Greta Christina’s post about the CFI statement. The most important part is this – “I will continue to support local CFI groups, as they are largely independent of the national organization.” It is important to understand that local CFI organizations are more like franchises than chapter houses of the national (US) CFI organization. Just like how CFI Canada is a separate entity.
Keep supporting the good work by your local CFI organizations, especially those that put on conventions that challenge the narrative that the national response is catering to.
The second is from Amanda Marcotte at Pandagon. She wonderfully tears into CFI and Lindsay’s actions and responses, again, and explains why the national organization is alienating the progressive (and growing elements) of the atheist movement. She also notes, though, “To be clear, their staff is still the same great group of people they always were, and I hope people don’t take this out on them.”
It is important to keep our responses nuanced for this reason. Without CFI’s various cons and get togethers throughout the nation, there would not be a strong speaking circuit for up and coming speakers to cut their teeth on. This will lead to a lack of diversity at “big name” cons since there’s just fewer cons to go to. Big Names will concentrate at the other cons and new, up and coming voices will find it difficult, if not impossible, to break into the business of being an atheist activist and speaker.
Please, please, keep the atheist convention space alive and support a diverse, complex, and ever growing speaker’s circuit. We need everyone’s voices. Even, occasionally, the voices of those who are wrong. At least so we have someone to talk about on the internet.